Popular Nigerian fashionista, Toyin Lawani has heavily descended on a Big Brother Naija 2020 housemate, throwing shades at her while alleging that the said BBNaija housemate was her baby daddy’s ex-girlfriend.
Toyin Lawani revisited some time in history wherein 2018, the unnamed BBNaija housemate made a post on her baby daddy, Lord Trigg’s Instagram page, where she mocked and took a swipe at her over her enhanced body.
According to the Instagram celebrity, she found out that the lady who shaded her in 2018 was the Big Brother Naija housemate, and she had used Lord Trigg’s phone to do that.
The beautiful socialite hinted who she was referring to as she revealed that the lady just had an altercation with Lucy after the eviction show last Sunday.
“See a lot of people judge me for my actions times, but don’t know the real reason behind them&call it hating, A while back I had issues with my ex over our kid, his new female counterpart took his phone &wrote all this about me which I later found out he didn’t do&those were not his words,I didn’t respond to this then, we settled behind closed doors cse that’s where relationships shld be settled cse my kid was involved,I had my own love interest too at that time so that wasn’t my issue at all, the blogs took it up&started trolling me&yet I didn’t respond, cse of my son.”
“see if u knw me u will knw my kids mean alot to me&I’m a very peaceful selfless dwn to earth person but I don’t tolerate bullshit& I say my mind,most people dnt like people who speak their truth, I will do anything to keep my kids safe&connected to their family regardless of our differences, is it not ironic that the same words written on the internet were words used on national tv for everyone to see yesterday on @lucyedetofficial Be with whoever u want to be but don’t go forming super hero making videos with my kid whn u are not d mother, people need to respect other people’s boundaries&Family”
“if I hear anyone say shit on my Page again about trolling anyone or dt I’m hating on any1 cse I chose who I chose, I will make matters worse 4u guys, all week y’all Been writing Shit abt me on blogs&on my Page calling me names yet ignored,d proof is there for u to see on national tv, At least I didn’t go on tv to put words in the mouth of the culprit, yet the same person went under d knife to look like me. Is life not so funny”
“wow, yet it was Fibroid surgery&breast lump removal I went for, See the internet never forgets, be careful of ur actions for future reasons like this, Well I have forgiven all parties involved a long time ago, I know more but won’t play all my cards at once.”
“I’m here waiting for all d names u hv called me& abt to call me, later they will say u want to trend, are u blind I hv bn trending before social media, if she didn’t look for my trouble low key in the past I wouldn’t look for hers in the future, do me I do you God no go vex, note that I can be petty too”
The managing director of First City Monument Bank (FCMB), Adam Nuru, said the bank just discovered that N573 million was mistakenly posted into the church account of Pastor Emmanuel Omale.
This is coming after the Presidential Committee on Audit of Recovered Assets (PCARA) had accused Ibrahim Magu, suspended acting chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC), of allegedly using Omale, founder of the Divine Hand of God Prophetic Ministry, to launder funds abroad.
The committee headed by retired Justice Ayo Salami said the former acting chairman purchased a property worth N573 million in Dubai using Omale’s name — an allegation the pastor denied.
Omale said he indeed met Magu in Dubai earlier in the year but not for illegal activity.
Omale said he only prayed with the suspended EFCC boss who had traveled to Dubai for medical reasons.
A letter signed by Omale’s lawyer read in part, “We, however, wish to make the following clarifications to put the public records straight: That our client is the General Overseer of an Inter-denominational/Multi-religious Prayer Ministry.
“That our client, only visited Mr. Ibrahim Magu in a hospital in Dubai, United Arab Emirates, sometime in March 2020.
“That our client never laundered any funds whatsoever for Mr. Ibrahim Magu or for anybody whatsoever. Our client does not own any foreign bank account anywhere in the world.
“That there are no funds whatsoever traceable from Mr. Ibrahim Magu to our client’s bank accounts whatsoever neither has our client received any funds whatsoever from Mr. Ibrahim Magu. Our client has never received any funds whatsoever from anybody on behalf of Mr. Ibrahim Magu.
“That our client does not own any property in Dubai. His name was never used to purchase any property whatsoever in Dubai, United Arab Emirates or anywhere else in any part of the world, neither has he purchased any property nor properties for Mr. Ibrahim Magu in any part of the world whatsoever.”
However, while testifying on Thursday, before the committee currently investigating Magu for allegedly mismanaging loot recovered by the anti-graft agency, FCMB MD Nuru said the bank just discovered that N573 million was transferred to the church account of Omale.
He said the mistake was discovered upon invitation by the probe committee — four years after the money was posted.
“On January 16, 2016, we made a return to NFIU which indicated that there was a transaction of an inflow of well over N573million. (N573,228,40),” the bank MD said.
“This return was said to be in favour of Divine Hand of God Prophetic Ministries Account No 1486743019.
“After that report, we conducted an investigation and discovered that the lodgement which we reported to NFIU was an error.
“The error was as a result of the fact that we were using a bank application called Pinnacle-7. However, we migrated from that application to a newer version called Pinnacle-10.
“Usually, when the bank intends to migrate from one application to another, we utilize weekends to carry out the exercise. The migration involves moving all the balances of customers from the previous application to the new application. The account of the Divine Hand Ministries was moved during that migration.
“It was that balance of N573million that was wrongly posted as an inflow into Divine Hand Ministries as reported to NFIU. This error was not peculiar to Divine Hand of God Prophetic Ministries alone but was also ascribed to 27 other accounts.”
A sitting governor in the northern part of Nigeria has been fingered as the commander of Boko Haram
In a video that is rapidly going viral, Nigerian economist Dr. Obadaiah Mailafia, revealed in an interview with Nigerian Info, that a serving governor in northern Nigeria is the commander of the Boko Haram terrorists.
He also revealed the game plan of the terrorist sect to go from house to house killing prominent people and the end goal of starting another civil war in the country by 2022.
Nollywood actor, Yemi Solade has shared his thoughts about the Nigerian movie industry which according to him is now filled with Yahoo boys and prostitutes.
The veteran actor who made the damning revelation in an interview with The Tribune, accused the gatekeepers of Nollywood of allowing unprofessionals to fill spaces meant for those who truly have the passion for the craft.
Solade said;
“The Nollywood is not there right now. The Nolllywood you see now is all encompassing. It’s like an uncompleted building that is not guarded and what you meet there would amaze you. It has become an all comers affair, anybody can stroll in and act. All the Yahoo boy are now there, all the prostitutes that you can imagine are there.
“People cannot even differentiate between the core professionals and these class of clowns who have infiltrated the association, but they didn’t just fly in, some people whom you refer to as core professionals brought them in.
“It’s just so porous that anybody can become an actor, the entry point is so porous and annoying. It’s a profession and it must be handled and treated as one. I am not really pleased with the state of the industry. It’s a professional body and we must portray ourselves as one that has mastered the art and craft of the profession.”
A former Minister of Petroleum Resources, Diezani Alison-Madueke, says societal values have disintegrated to the extent that online fraudsters otherwise known as ‘Yahoo boys’ have become role models in Nigerian society.
Diezani said this while delivering a lecture at a virtual event which was also attended by her former boss, ex-President Goodluck Jonathan, on Friday.
Speaking at the event organised by the Ijaw National Development Group on Friday, Diezani stressed the need for mentorship of Ijaw youths.
The videos were posted on Twitter by blogger, Jackson Ude, who is also the publisher of Point Blank News.
The former minister said, “The ones that have swag, the Yahoo Yahoo boys as my son would say; these in short, are the role models they are looking at. These are the ones that reinforce negative societal norms and values.
“This is a travesty of an unfolding tragedy for us. Why have I spent time talking about fatherless homes and the impact it has on our children? The truth of the matter is that an irresponsible boy tends to become an irresponsible man and it is therefore a vicious cycle. If you plant yam, you cannot harvest plantain.”
Diezani said there are no shortcuts to progressing in life, adding that only hard work could guarantee success.
The former minister added, “There are no shortcuts to working your way up the ladder of life. Progressing in life, in work and relationships – marital or otherwise – is always dependent on consistent effort and hard work.
“As we create more responsible young men, we will generate more responsible fathers which will in turn engender a more sustainable society and build a greater nation of successful Ijaw men and women.”
Diezani said societal values had collapsed mainly because of weak family bonds caused by broken homes.
She said in some instances, children raised by single parents do well in life but it should not be the norm that children should be brought up by single parents.
The former minister, who is being investigated by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, for alleged fraud running into billions of dollars has been living in the United Kingdom since 2015.
She was reportedly appointed as a Commissioner for Trade and Investment by Prime Minister Roosevelt Skerrit of the Commonwealth of Dominica and handed a diplomatic passport which has helped her to evade prosecution despite being in London for over four years.
Since the video went viral Nigerians have blasted her for the video. See some comments below:
Hushmummy, another fugitive, criticised Yahoo Yahoo Boys. The audacity, boldness and temerity. Because there are no serious consequences for looting the Nigerian treasury.
Anyone with money in Nigeria is a role model. Be it from Yahoo Yahoo, legit biz or poems. Just have $$$.
This materialism is thanx to people like you, a political class who flaunt (often stolen) wealth and treat scornfully those without it. Your scorn hardens hearts to morality. https://t.co/hV7K5lf20V
Just woke up this morning to read about Diezani spitting rubbish about Yahoo guys when she’s their role model politically.This life no balance at all 😂💔 pic.twitter.com/0epcpGu4xG
“America’s Got Talent” judge, Simon Cowell, has undergone surgery after breaking his back in several spots while falling off his bike on Saturday.
The 60-year-old entertainment mogul, who shares a child with his partner, Lauren Silverman, was testing a new electric bike in the courtyard of his home in Malibu, California, with his family when he fell, according to his spokeswoman.
“He was taken to hospital where they operated overnight, he’s under observation and is doing fine,” the spokeswoman told CNN.
Cowell, also known for judging “Britain’s Got Talent,” “American Idol” and the “X Factor,” was set to return to “America’s Got Talent” for the first live show airing on Tuesday.
Young couple with guitar on the beach on a summer day.
Relationships are hard. They take a lot of dedication, focus, and work. Finding the right person to settle down with can often feel like a very frustrating game of chance. And even when you do find the right one, you’ll still have your work cut out for you as you make an effort to maintain your relationship.
If you’re looking for a little guidance when it comes to love, you’ve come to the right place. The Cheat Sheet spoke with eight top relationship experts to get some of their best advice. So pull up a chair and read on for more.
1. Take it easy
The best relationship advice I’ve ever gotten, and that I give, is “easy does it.” Too often we get caught up in fear-based needs to control our partner. This pull becomes a destructive compulsion that corrodes the integrity of the relationship. It replaces respect and compassion with anger and resentment. It destroys the quality of our lives and over time, the relationship. This advice impacted the way I approach romantic relationships in that I allowed for a lot more space, which in turn allowed for less reactivity, more peace, happiness, and respect. The classic struggle of all relationships is finding the right calculus in the togetherness-and-autonomy equation. Typically, when a relationship is under stress, one of the partners asks for physical space to break the tension. This is suboptimal. The best way to incorporate space is by being proactive and providing emotional rather than physical space. To do this, partners need to allow each other the space to be themselves and to have their experiences without trying to control the outcome or think that you are responsible for their lives and reaction. It’s hard work and takes practice, but the rewards are well worth the effort.
Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, J.D. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Senior Clinical Adviser to Caron Ocean Drive.
2. Give 90%
Gail Saltz | Source: Dr. Gail Saltz
My parents advised what they did in their own marriage: “both of you always think about giving 90% to your partner and you both will be very happy.” They meant it’s so important to think about how your partner is feeling, to stand in their shoes, to be giving and compromising, and emotionally generous. That 10% is for the understanding that sometimes it’s also OK to be a bit selfish, to place your needs first, or stand firm on something. They also made clear that this only works if you are both giving 90%.I just celebrated my 26th wedding anniversary. I definitely think about my spouse’s needs and feelings the majority of the time and try to be compromising. In return I feel he is 90% thinking of me and how to consider my feelings and be supportive and loving. Sometimes this means giving something up, but actually most times this means we both get what we want and we both feel very loved, supported, and that we are in each other’s corner. I don’t feel afraid to be giving, because he really has my best interests at heart. We are a terrific team and often we agree on what we want. And when we don’t, we tend to take turns supporting the other’s wants.
Dr. Gail Saltz is a Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at New York Presbyterian’s Weill-Cornell Medical College. She has partnered with Tylenol on the new #HowWeFamily program and national study to share more information about the modern American family.
3. You are responsible for your own happiness
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It’s not my partner’s job to make me happy. It’s my job to make me happy. Of course it’s easy to feel good when my partner is acting in a way that I want —but needing them to be a certain way in order for me to feel good —that’s bondage. Thinking that they’re always going to be in a good mood and directing their affectionate attention towards me — while that may be possible during the initial stage of a relationship, is impossible to sustain long-term. I’m responsible for my happiness. My partner is responsible for her happiness. We deliberately focus on things to feel good in our lives and for things to appreciate in one another.If you’re looking for someone to complete you —or vice versa—you’re looking in the wrong direction for the lasting happiness, wholeness, and fulfillment that you truly seek. Wouldn’t it be better if you could find a way to feel how you want to feel regardless of what you’re partner is saying or doing?This advice transformed every relationship in my life – not just the romantic ones. Before I knew these things, I was unintentionally holding my partner responsible for my happiness. When I learned that I’m responsible for my own happiness and when I learned how to consistently align with it, my entire world transformed. I now have the freedom to choose if and when I spend time with someone else, and I deliberately choose to spend time with others who get this, too. My relationships are more meaningful, more loving, more free, and most importantly – more fun! And my overall happiness continues to grow, too, regardless of whether I’m in a relationship or not.
Jeff Bear, Life Coach and Founder of Bear Partners.
4. Stop waiting and live your life
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When I was single and stressed about finding love, my good friend, Scott, a confirmed bachelor, told me this. He said, “Lisa, you need to calm down, chill out, and stop expecting love to be here already. Your sense of entitlement is killing your ability to attract a good man.” When I realized he was right, I stopped waking up every day feeling angry that love hadn’t found me yet. I stopped being resentful that my friends were married and having lives that felt out of reach to me. I stopped feeling like my life was on hold. As cliché as it sounds, I stopped waiting and started living. Overnight, my outlook changed. My results changed, too. I started meeting men wherever I went. I went on dates, had fun, didn’t give my heart away foolishly, and met my husband. I knew he was The One when he told me, “I’ve always been too nice for the naughty girls and too naughty for the nice ones.” That had been my experience with men.My advice for singles who are struggling in their search is to look within and ask themselves what part of their own life still needs work. When you clean up your side of the street, you make room for a perfectly imperfect person to see you, celebrate you, and love you. And remember that Mr. Right [or Ms. Right] will not be perfect, but will be perfect for you, just as you’ll be perfectly imperfect for him [or her].
Lisa Steadman, Relationship Expert and Author of It’s A BreakUp Not A BreakDown.
5. Love yourself
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You can’t love anyone more than your willingness to love yourself. Through this advice I learned about the importance of caring for my mind, body, and spirit. I liken love to the oxygen mask on a plane. You have to apply it to yourself before applying it to the person next to you. This advice improved my chances of winning my wife’s hand in marriage. She was searching for true love. She wanted someone to spend the rest of her life with. Conveying to her that I loved myself signaled that I could be a pillar of strength and compassion.
Paul C. Brunson, Matchmaker.
6. Don’t put boundaries on others
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You can’t put boundaries on someone else—only yourself. If someone is treating you badly, you can’t change their behavior. But you can ask yourself why you accept it and how you can put a boundary on yourself so that you won’t accept it again. It made me take more responsibility for my role in bad relationships. Instead of feeling like a victim of circumstance, I was empowered to reject bad treatment and choose a different person. Also, [remember that] life is a self-fulfilling prophesy. If you believe you are undeserving of happiness, love and prosperity, that’s what the universe will give you.
Dr. Wendy Walsh, Relationship Expert.
7. Sometimes love is where you’d least expect it
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The hottest, most fun, sexiest, interesting, growth-stimulating, spontaneous, most romantic, most eye-opening relationships or experiences all were not with people that I thought I would end up with. Just because a relationship has a shelf life doesn’t mean you shouldn’t enter into it. This advice allowed me to enjoy each interaction for what it was and not try to make it something it wasn’t. And at the end of the day, our life is just a conglomeration of memories and I have many happy memories to think on. This gives me the freedom to experience all life has to offer!Other good advice: “Always be unexpected.” This doesn’t have to be in grand gestures, but predictability in a relationship = boring = death of romance. Worst Advice? “Don’t worry, it’ll happen.” If I wanted to learn French, if someone told me “Don’t worry, it’ll happen,” how stupid does that sound?! Dating is a skill set like every other and you get out of it what you put into it.
Hunt Ethridge, Certified Dating Coach.
8. Put in some effort
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First, you simply must put time and energy into dating. A combination of online dating and socializing (perhaps including speed dating or singles mixers) is ideal. And second, you must go about dating the right way—from a positive attitude and an effective online dating profile to behavior on dates and communication with potential partners. If your approach to finding love is waiting for it to just come along, you’re taking a huge risk and will probably be single for a long time.
Elly Klein, Dating and Relationship Expert and Author of Men Are Like A Box of Chocolates.
The Governor of Kaduna State, Nasir El-Rufai, has said he would not support a northern candidate for the presidency in 2023.
El-Rufai said this on Saturday in an interview with the BBC Hausa Service as published by TheCable.
According to him, the idea of zoning the presidential seat is necessarily not constitutional, but is based on the country’s political arrangement which he believes should be respected.
The President, Maj. Gen. Muhammadu Buhari (Retd.), is from the North.
El-Rufai said, “The southern part of the country is supposed to produce the president come 2023; I don’t support a northerner to vie for the seat after President Muhammadu Buhari, based on Nigeria’s political arrangement.
“That is why I came out and said that after President Buhari has been in office for eight years, no northerner should run for office. Let the southerners also have eight years.
“If you look at how I am, I don’t take anyone to work with me for the zone he came from. The eligibility I look at is if who is entrusted to the public will hold it properly.”
The governor, however, said he had no interest in becoming the president in 2023 and termed rumours around such as being baseless.
He added, “It has been said that I have loved the presidency since I was a minister in the FCT. This is nonsense. I do not want the Nigerian presidency. God gives power, whether you like it or not, if He wants it, He will give it to you, but I have never sought the presidency of Nigeria, no one can say I have ever sought it.”
President Buhari’s nephew, Mamman Daura, had earlier in an interview said he was against the zoning of the presidency.
I am completely heartbroken. Senator Buruji Kashamu was my political mentor. Now he is dead at the relatively young age of 62. I feel like an orphan all over again.
I may have worked with the PDP government at the federal level, but he was the man who brought me into direct, partisan politics. He was one of the most generous men that I have ever known. He was determined to groom me and he did. He taught me the ropes. He linked me with the grassroots. I learnt a lot from him. Senator Kashamu mentored me and others without any strings attached. He was a very simple man who was grossly misunderstood by his political opponents. His persona, his politics was indeed grossly misunderstood but those who knew him personally met a man who loved Nigeria dearly and was unapologetically public-spirited.
He enjoyed giving other people opportunities. He was humorous, kind-hearted, large-hearted and genial. With his death, Nigeria, Ogun state, Ijebuland and the people of Ijebu-Igbo have lost an illustrious son, who demonstrated courage, talent and creativity in everything to which he applied his energy. His death is yet another confirmation that COVID-19 is real, capricious and wicked. It is also a sober reaffirmation of the maxim that “man proposes, but God disposes.”
He no longer wanted to run for office in 2023, but he made it clear he would support others to achieve their dreams of getting an opportunity to make contributions on the Nigerian stage. And now, he is gone. Death is a cruel fact of human reality. It puts an end to life and many things. But Senator Kashamu will never be forgotten by those who loved him and who were privileged to relate with him. My heartfelt condolences to Sherifat and her siblings and all members of the Kashamu family, the people of Ijebu Igbo and Ogun State.
Reuben Abati, Ph.D, Senator Kashamu’s running mate, 2019 gubernatorial election in Ogun State (PDP)
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